Safe Haven - Information

+New Chat - Java-Based Chat

Wed, 10 Mar 2010 04:45:30 +0000

The chat has been changed and no longer requires Java. Probably has less features but is easier for those who had issues with their browser.

Anger/attempt At New Start

Sat, 27 Feb 2010 02:05:02 +0000

I've let my anger get out of hand, especially since late last year. I'm not cursing people out but I'm disturbing myself and my sense of who an administrator should be. I will keep this in mind.

Ok, Back Again

Wed, 17 Feb 2010 23:58:12 +0000

Was moving servers but new server did not respond well to having a lot of people on it so back to old one. There will have been posts that have disappeared and such. Sorry for the inconvenience.

Server Downtime... Again

Thu, 11 Feb 2010 00:22:16 +0000

Apparently the VPS company had some issues for -- what is it now? -- like the third time in a few months. They NEVER answered my tech support requests so we're likely going to be moving soon. I'm looking around so if anybody has any suggestions for a VPS or the equivalent...

I know they couldn't help the power outage though shouldn't there be something in place to account for random things like that? Still, that doesn't excuse their not answering my support request that I sent nearly two hours ago. Even a stock reply, 'Hey, we're having issues' would have been welcome.

Skin Fuckup

Tue, 19 Jan 2010 16:45:52 +0000

I accidentally changed people to a new skin it seems. I'm not exactly sure but that's what people's comments seem to indicate. You can change to whatever skin you want in the dropdown on the bottom left.

Going To Vegas

Mon, 21 Dec 2009 03:50:29 +0000

I'm going to be in Las Vegas for the next few days. I won't be able to validate posts or memberships (on the main site).

edit: Ho hum, waiting for my iPod to sync. Taking forever.

Forums Opened Up Again

Sun, 01 Nov 2009 23:50:37 +0000

I've opened up the first post of each thread in some of the forums (excluding S&R and Self-Injury's Family/Friends sub-forums because members sometimes talk about their SH exes who are no longer members and the people in their life). Creativity is excluded, too, because once it's published on the Internet sometimes it's not up for consideration in real publications.

You can hide your first posts if it's essential to you. [ hide ] [ /hide ] will hide the content of a thread until it's been replied to.

Or maybe have the [ hide ] only hide for banned members/guests? Tell me what you think on that.

I know we've been hidden for a long time but I know I rarely, if ever, care to join a forum if it's hidden. I tried to find a compromise that would allow members who care some privacy and allow non-members to get a peek at Safe Haven.

Pro Self-Injury

Fri, 23 Oct 2009 18:33:46 +0000

I've always tried to make this board a welcome place for people who don't feel self-injury is a problem and those who do, thus earning the idea of neutrality though it's more complicated than that. 'Neutral' with no glorification/encouragement threads/back and forths though you're allowed to post that you don't want to stop or that you don't see it as a problem for yourself or that you like self-injuring. I try to be looser than some other boards with self-injury talk (no trigger warnings required, etc.) but I'm obviously not loose enough for some people who think all should be allowed. I don't condemn self-injury or require it be only discussed negatively or gear the board towards recovery or ask that all positive feelings toward self-injury be checked at the door but...

I think a line is crossed when a thread is dedicated to how fucking wonderful self-injury is.

Why are people not reporting this? It takes a minute and you can put '...' if you're uncomfortable in the box and I'll get an idea something is up because I certainly do not monitor threads in the SI forum. Nobody has to know you reported it. I certainly don't go around gossiping about who reported what.

You can continue the discussion of pro/neutral/anti here if you'd like but pro-threads are not allowed, have never been allowed, and will never be allowed.

Downtime

Fri, 02 Oct 2009 11:54:35 +0000

As I said on the LiveJournal community for SH there was supposed to be network maintenance with a window of two hours and was only supposed to have brief moments of downtime. Four hours later... it just came back up. Sort of angry because four hours is a lot and I think there was some downtime before in the past month. Well, it's back.

Adult Forum/donating Members

Sat, 26 Sep 2009 22:01:28 +0000

I just moved several hundred accounts for members who had access to the Adult forum to a different member group (Members - A) so that if members in this group ever donate in the future there won't be a hassle with adult forum access. However, members who are in the Donating Members group and previously had access to the Adult forum... well, there might be an issue with being moved into the Members group instead of the Members - A group. I've gone through everything manually to fix this but I'm sure there are some mistakes or oversights.

Donating members, e-mail me if any forum access issues come up in the future. Don't feel you're being forced to donate to get SH access again.

Thanks!

Spamming

Tue, 08 Sep 2009 23:42:31 +0000

Dredging up threads from a month ago after posting a copy and paste reply to all the threads that came before it is is considered spam. This was done recently in Introduce Yourself about thirty or so -- I'm too lazy to count -- times in a row.

For that person and in the future, when this is done, the posts made during those marathon spam posts will be subtracted from your post count. Also, in the future, you will be placed on a temporary suspension where none of your posts will count towards your post total until that suspension is up.

I think this is a better solution than not making posts in Introduce Yourself count since welcoming SH members is encouraged... when there is some thought involved.

Thanks.

Registration Changes

Fri, 31 Jul 2009 16:36:27 +0000

Registrations no longer require admin validation because that got to be rather annoying for both new members and the admin. (;

However, new members will be put on 'moderated' status with certain restrictions. After everything checks out and they've posted enough times (don't worry to anybody new, your post will be visible to other members once I approve it) you'll get all the same privileges as most other members, minus access to the chat. Access to the chat still requires 25 posts. (:

A Couple New Skins

Thu, 23 Jul 2009 02:07:20 +0000

A couple new skins. Free ones I obtained.

A bit of grumbling, huh?

Other skins:

Pm Fix?

Sun, 12 Jul 2009 16:10:33 +0000

I've changed a few things with how PMs are counted. My count is lower than it used to be after this. You and the person you are PMing need to have looked at their PM box but so far it seems a bit more promising. At worst, I can write a rebuild script but I want to see if there's any change.

New Skin

Sun, 12 Jul 2009 03:56:23 +0000

We have a new skin. Should be available in the dropdown at the bottom.

It's oh so pretty and, yeah, I don't have that skill.

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No, Alex, not something like the old Pro one though I'm waiting for the contest winner to be decided so people start releasing skins. (;

Forum Upgrade

Mon, 29 Jun 2009 17:44:21 +0000

Well, it's that time again. Upgrading SH. I did fuck it up majorly because I had reversed two variables and couldn't get any error messages to figure out what the hell was going on. WAMP, you failed me.

Thing seem to be in order now. If there are errors please let me know. I think I should be done tinkering though I should take a major look at the UCP.

New features if you care to look. PMs can be 'conversations' between more than one person. Friendly URLs. Facebook-type mini-update thing in your profile. A lot of the change was backend so nothing to see though now I have a pretty neat admin CP and reported posts center. (;

I completely rewrote the Multi-Avatar system and added it as an application. You can now choose how it's sorted in the fast-reply dropdown, the full post form, and the edit multi-avatars section. There's also a tab in members profiles for it.

Regular members get 15 avatars, alumni get 20, and donating members get 75.

The look. I know it's different but it would have been ridiculous to try to fit everything into a fixed width of 650px and centered. I know many people aren't going to like it. They didn't like the old skin back when it was introduced, either.

Thanks for bearing with me this rather tiring morning!

Login Issue

Tue, 09 Jun 2009 06:09:04 +0000

My host neglected to tell me that I shouldn't update PHP through the Litespeed interface, instead through a script for Cpanel/Litespeed integration. I figured it out well enough once I started getting e-mails and messages on Facebook.

Guess I should have asked them instead of just leaping into things and updating it through the Litespeed control panel anyway.

http://community.livejournal.com/safe__haven/profile is a good place to get information about downtime when I can't post it on SH (or forgot I could, in this case :/ ).

For those who aren't members of Livejournal I make the posts public.

New Self-injury.net!

Thu, 16 Apr 2009 11:44:33 +0000

I'd been partly waiting for IPB 3.0 to be out to do this but I figured what the hell.

self-injury.net, the site this forum is attached to, has been given a new look, a new backend (it uses a CMS now), new sections, the sections have been reorganized, etc.

I've spent a better part of two months doing this. Converting numerous tables containing separate sections of the site into this one site. Adding links one by one, going over old resources/hotlines/organizations. Adding a bit to the new sections.

Sorry if it's bright. I wanted to get away from the dreary look.

Sadly, the forum and self-injury.net are not connected yet. With IPB 3.0 this promises to be possible and there's talk of some people creating a script that to aid in this.

Safe Haven Livejournal Community

Sun, 21 Dec 2008 11:51:12 +0000

Since the old one seems dead. A sort of gathering place (I guess?) during server problems or just because.

http://community.livejournal.com/safe__haven/

Please tell me if something is not working (well, once I get back I'll see about it). Membership is moderated.

(again) New Chat, Ipb 3.0, Speed

Tue, 18 Nov 2008 07:03:24 +0000

Since we've undergone a server change I wanted the chat hosted offsite but still integrated with SH and the user database. The chat can be found through the 'Live Chat' link. It's still Java based because I don't trust FlashChat after being hacked.

IPB 3.0 is coming within the next few months and with the coming upgrade of the forums there will be new looks (I think I'm going to ditch the fixed width, sorry) for the skins. A number of new features. I'm going to try to integrate SH with the rest of self-injury.net once I get my hands on the new version. That means if you're logged into SH or the site you won't have to enter in the addition problem for forms, you'll be able to submit poetry/artwork/short stories/personal stories/etc. into the Gallery of Pain through a control panel rather than having to e-mail me.

I had already done most of the integration but stopped working on the project because IPB 3.0 is so close to being released. There may be a loss - at least temporarily - of some features I've added into the site. I'm going to try to get the multi-avatars in once I figured out the hooks system being used.

If you're noticed SH is faster but I'm unfortunately going to have to go to a setup that will make it slower so that there's no security issues (slower speeds is a side effect). Sorry. :/

Reminder: Sh Members Talk; Eds

Thu, 02 Oct 2008 05:10:08 +0000

Please remember that if you're in a relationship with a member of SH and your relationship is having issues, a fight, break up, etc. it is *not* meant to be aired on SH. Don't start a thread about it, don't write little jabs in the Distractions threads, etc. It's not fair to your significant other and it's not fair to other members of SH who may be pulled into taking sides on an issue that is private.

Also, this is a reminder to not use SH as a place to put down your fellow members. I cannot count the times a member reads a thread that is inflammatory and hustles down to Serious Honesty or RT or any of those other threads and writes their angry but vague response in which they put a person or a group of people down. They won't name names but it's sometimes very obvious, especially since they were surfing the thread two minutes beforehand (the all seeing eye ).

I did read that some members with EDs feel unwelcome. I hope that discussion of Eating Disorders is not unwelcome on SH. I think a number of people who don't have eating disorders feel overwhelmed by the numbers of people who do have them and some feel they - the non eating disordered individual - should remain silent. I don't think that people discussing their eating disorders mind sharing space with people with anxiety, depression, abuse issues, etc. I don't think it's an imposition or taking away anything to discuss *your* issues, whatever they may be. Perhaps with the following paragraph and the clarifying of policy people who don't want to go in HWYD or Off-Loading and see explicit talk will be able to do so.

Discussion involving pro-ED leanings or explicit content is not welcome in general discussion threads. Pro-ED leanings are never to be discussed except in a theoretical sense. A debate on the subject, etc. Explicit talk is meant to be in threads with clear trigger labels (say what the trigger warning is for) created by the member who wants to discuss that aspect of their disorder. I'd hope the same goes for abuse and suicide if they are explicit. They're fine in their own threads.

Self-injury discussion, as always, is welcome. That's the link that brought most of us here.

Eating Disorder And Other Mental Health Issues Sub-forums

Sat, 21 Jun 2008 07:00:15 +0000

I've thought about this, wanted to do this for years. Cared too much about the possible (likely) people hating me and saying I'm doing the wrong thing. I feel scared right now.

I've made the Eating Disorder and Other Mental Health Issues sub-forums read-only.

I've felt for a long time that they don't really help. There's this clique-ish aspect to them, there's this aspect to them that almost feeds *into* illness rather than away. Enabling runs rampant in them.

Not to say you can't talk about Eating Disorders or Depression or Abuse or Medication anymore but maybe it will be more open to everybody. I *want* people to feel supported, to be able to talk about more than one issue, to get support from people who aren't concentrated on one problem (aren't always in the same mode of thinking). I guess I miss the old way the forum used to be, when everybody could reply even if they didn't have that problem. Nostalgia? Maybe.

Maybe it will be a disaster to get rid of them. I'm willing to find out.

Gallery (fixed Group Permissions)

Wed, 04 Jun 2008 09:42:25 +0000

edit:

Gallery is now available for everyone. I don't like seeing nifty new features go to waste. <3 Strongarming is always my worst weakness, I hate it. I always feel guilty.

Just no pictures of self-injury or emaciated models or stuff like that.

Edit: I fixed the group permissions with adding your own Album. It seemed like half the groups were allowed, half not. Sorry, my test account (not in any special group) didn't show any errors. Please report any issues you have.

New Skin: Bat Girl

Mon, 05 May 2008 10:15:42 +0000

I made a new skin called 'bat girl'. You can change it at the very bottom in the dropdown next to 'Lo-Fi Version'.

Also, fixed the smilies so there's no white specks in the background.

New Smilies

Wed, 23 Apr 2008 03:34:10 +0000

I put some new smilies.

I love adding smilies even though I don't use 99% of them. 'Tis fun.